I have already become accustomed to the fact that there are many children in my family.
Sometimes everyone looks at us with undisguised surprise, because in
modern complex pace of life is difficult to combine material
social and psychological well-being. My husband and I have five
children And many have a question, how do we cope with
problems. But in our situation there are pluses, as well as minuses. let’s
Let’s start with the minuses.
Are these cons?
- Food can end just instantly, especially vegetables and
fruits. The husband is still wondering how it all ended quickly.
I remember the story of mother of 9 children that 20 kg of oranges ran out for
- Not always have the opportunity to please everyone. With one child
much easier to find a compromise or change his mood. But with
five children have to be patient. It happens that the daughter
something dissatisfied, and the next day one of the sons shows
- My husband and I have to cultivate. Or engage
hard self-education. Children quickly take their cue from us. And if we
somewhere we make a mistake, immediately perceive it as
normal behavior. It would be convenient to shift all care
child to spouse, but when they are five, you have to share
- I feel constantly loaded, as if I was missing.
It’s impossible to embrace and caress all five at the same time, hands
lacks. While you are doing one child, the other is already in time
break something, fall or quarrel.
- Time for me now is the most precious gift. Its boundaries
clearly marked, but for recreation and pleasure for yourself not to allocate and
30 минут в day. Home affairs, constant vanity and attention to
children takes a lot of time. I used to have the opportunity
sleep in the afternoon I realized that now it is impossible. When
you have one child, and he sleeps – this is your time. And when there are three of them, and
one is sleeping and two is not? Or two are sleeping, and one is not? Whose time is it
- Every child wants personal attention for himself. This happens
not easy, but the child does not need much attention – draw
a little together, pick Lego, cuddle.
- I don’t have time for bliss in bed in the morning, laziness and
depression. Sometimes I watch foreign or Russian films, where
Some women allow themselves not to leave the bed until 10 am. ABOUT,
it is a luxury for me. It happens that since six in the morning on the bed with
husband can get our small kindergarten and noisily wake up on
- It is difficult to perceive children’s screams, noise and quarrels. But they are in any
family inevitable. I have not yet seen sisters or brothers who are not
shared even the most inconspicuous trifle among themselves. When begin
it’s hard to sort out our boys’ relationships.
- The difference of tastes in food seems an inconspicuous item, but when with
they come across all the time, he gets bored. Today I cook manna
porridge – pan 7 liters. And suddenly, two or three of my children
categorically refuse it. How to be here? Have to
find all sorts of options so that the porridge is eaten, and the children
- In a large family, everything is collective. And if one
the child leaves his slippers on the threshold, then they will definitely
dressed by another child. Who had time, that and sneakers.
- My husband and I are in constant turmoil and noise. Good
becomes night when silence comes. But it can last
not for long. One can stand in the toilet, the other – drink some water, and
the third child suddenly had a nightmare.
- A separate topic is the number of things in our house. They are everywhere. BUT
when a rare event occurs – a trip, you have to collect
a tremendous amount of things. You try to take everything to a minimum, but
In one suitcase, everything does not fit. BUT раз больше вещей, то
it can be more difficult with order, with washing, and with unfolding
- I already can not imagine a trip to expensive resorts. Yes we
we find the opportunity to visit the camp sites, but the cost of tickets at the same time
comes out more expensive. And do not always give to stay in a hotel in the usual
number. For this we get two numbers or one
большой, нужны большие машины в аренду и так далее.
- Separately, I want to say about spending. This concerns not only
leisure, but also homely. Budget allocation is practically
impossible, so if there is an opportunity to get something,
do it right away. Otherwise, money quickly flows away like water.
- I practically have no time for my husband. We are still so young, but
constant worries do not allow us to be alone. Sometimes you want to wear
beautiful dress, go together to the cinema or a regular cafe. But
Everything is limited to a common home cinema with our kids. Not,
there are moments when we have time for ourselves, but it is already
becomes unaccustomed. There is one joke of a large father that
the more children in the house, the less opportunity for new
- Sometimes I get lost in my behavior. I understand that I used
one tactic for raising a child, but it no longer affects
the rest of my little family members. Have to находить особый
approach in any of the situations. Sometimes connect humor, rigor or
improvise. Unified education system in a large family is not
- In a large family do not click beak. If you yawn long
thinking whether you want to eat an apple, then it definitely will not get. it
минус для детей, которые долго думают.
- Sometimes we feel with the husband as a service staff.
All day I iron, wash, clean, cook. Fortunately, helps out
modern household appliances. I can not imagine myself in the Middle Ages with
five children when elementary there was no electricity. Spouse
not only parenting, but also male housework,
which I can not perform. Even if someone came to help out
relatives, the load is not reduced. There are already trying to embrace and
другие дела, которые отложил на другой day.
- Visiting for us is a certain complexity. Come to
someone with five children is problematic. And there you will not drink easy
tea, you need to follow all.
- Household items and clothing wears out faster than normal
families. Дети постоянно бьют что-то or нечаянно ломают. We try
to teach them to thrift and order. Also this responsibility
we switch to the eldest son who helps us keep an eye on
All of the above material and educational
items can throw ordinary families into a mild shock. Exactly these
problems cause people to fear the birth of a large number
children But я хочу представить вниманию других родителей множество
The advantages of his family with psychological, not material
points of view.
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- Fun. I do not have to miss. One is singing, the other is
dancing, the third – helps in the kitchen. A large number of loved ones
Children makes the world brighter and more festive.
- Personal growth. I have to constantly improve.
Да и папе тоже. We are becoming better and more tolerant. Gradually
there is a realization of oneself as an individual. In many ways with two
simpler than with one, and with three easier than with two. They are distracted
on each other, play, build relationships with each other.
- Не всегда дети дёргают от домашних дел or отвлекают по
trivia. В основном они заняты играми между собой or общим делом.
It’s nice to watch your cohesive team trying to build
relationship between each other and mutually help each other.
- The eldest child is a great help. Enough to teach him
something like the entire junior contingent takes an example from him and
imitates him. So passes collective training. therefore
many say that it is enough to raise one, and then put
on stream. Sometimes it’s enough just to teach one thing – and he will teach
- You can endlessly be touched, looking at their dear children. how
they hug, kiss, cherish their own krovinochkoy. Their
caring for each other eradicates hardness and greed. When they
equally dressed when they share with each other and take care of each other
friend. it основное отличие многодетной семьи от тех, где
brought up one child.
- Family photos and video for memory – the most precious gift. we
Together we make plans, go on a trip, arrange
celebrations in our big cohesive company.
- True awareness of life opens only after birth.
several kids. And it’s strange that families with three children are already
ranked as having many children. Many claim that three children in
family is the norm.
- Each child is unique in his character. Constantly
you wonder, like brother and sister, and they are different in their views. And in
a large family has a chance to see it in practice when some and
same parents grow several children completely different. TO
the same in a large family parents will not put on the first
место свои амбиции or осуществлять мечты за счёт children
- Inside a large family there is a social upheaval,
which helps the child become better spiritually and physically. He is studying
put up, share, express your feelings and realize yourself. it
важно для дальнейшего нахождения в школьном or рабочем коллективе.
BUTдаптация к изменениям и окружению происходит легче. Real
socialization. From which you can not hide, do not pretend
- There is no need for kindergarten. Yes, and many grandmothers
complain that the attention and attitude to the child in some preschool
institutions are no longer the way in the old days. BUT научить детей азам к
School can and at home. This helps the eldest child.
- You can always hug someone. Here is just to show your feelings
affection and love.
- Mom will have to deal with themselves and their internal development –
otherwise not survive. She will have to find a hobby and change her
attitude to itself.
- In some situations, have to use humor. Without him
impossible, therefore in our family they try on complicated things
- Own efficiency increases several times, and already for
less I can do more things. BUT ведь с
the birth of my first child was practically not enough for me
of time. The best time management teacher is
- A big family is a huge moral work. Are produced
such qualities as humility, patience, understanding and surrender
to another person. In such families, children after marriage are ready for
independent living, know how to handle their own
kids howое воспитание применить, как играть or
- TOогда родители закончат свой жизненный путь, у деток всегда
будет поддержка со стороны братьев or сестёр. BUT настоящая дружба
will last forever.
- You can learn a lot of new things, because every child has its own
development and tastes. Can научиться рисовать, клеить самолёты or
to collect the designer.
- Parents finally have to delegate responsibilities –
одного or двух детей можно полностью обслуживать самостоятельно. BUT
вот когда их трое or четверо, приходится искать другие варианты
- I observe that mothers of large families have irresistible
inner and outer beauty. They are versatile personalities.
- Raising a few children is not much more expensive. Gradually
management is changing. The younger ones get things from the older ones. Disappears
the need for extra things.
- Opens room for the development of new ideas and talents. Can
стать руководителем масс, собрать свой театр or спортивную
- A big family requires a lot of space, so you can
move out of town to nature. Can заниматься огородом и домашним
farm, which also teaches accountability.
- Parents with a lot of children are already full
cell. Not just a couple, but a union sharing difficulties and
joy. The price of such a relationship is very high.
- Вера в Бога усorвается. You start to believe that someone is guarding
children and you Otherwise it is impossible, you can go crazy with what is not
it turns out to be everywhere and immediately.
- The more children, the more joy, positive thoughts and
enthusiasm. And every child manages to participate in this on
- With the advent of each subsequent child, the world opens in
a different light from other sides. it уникальное явление помогает
- it потрясающе — видеть в их глазах продолжение любимого мужа.
TOаждый раз по-разному. it, наверное, самое поразительное чувство –
give birth to a piece of a loved one.
- TOогда мама занята важным делом – то есть воспитанием детей, то
leaves his energy there. While the child is small, he needs her
one hundred percent, and energy is spent a lot, she has no time to do
nonsense. But едва подрастает — мама понемногу начинает выносить мозг
papa Because it produces excess energy. Can было бы ее
to work, but then she will spend there everything. But лучше ей снова
to give birth to someone – and throw out your strength there.
- In a large family, children do not suffer from hyper-care, parents
there is no time to control them, to follow them totally. In their life
more freedom and independence.
- From small children comes a powerful charge of positive and happiness,
therefore, in a large family it is very much.
- Parents after the birth of several children become each other
much closer and dearer. Their отношения имеют большую ценность. Than
more children, the stronger the spiritual intimacy and love.
- A big family is characterized by big cares, big noise,
enhanced laughter and tears. But в ней и вдвойне больше поводов для
love and joy. Now large families are very few and it is
frustrating. It is desirable that these statistics change!
pros-минусы… BUT дети растут, вырастают, и дома
становится все тише и тише… BUT ты так привыкла уже к шуму и детскому
laughing. Children are like drugs. Good, когда они есть, когда их
lot. And as one man once said, the house should always be
little baby as long as possible. I’m with him
agree. Big family is more
worries, more noise, more laughter and tears, more love and occasions for
joy TOогда-то все семьи такими были. Now – they are in
minority. Very sorry. let’s менять такую
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to do if you want to quit and run away
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in favor of a large family
- The experience of a large mother: 5 ways to make life easier for parents,
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