Pattern stereotypes that prevent liveyoung mom

Many myths go about what should be good
mother. Guided by them, the surrounding and strive to indicate a woman
on her mistakes, and this so overshadows the joy of motherhood. And often
staying in the fetters of the stereotypical “so accepted” we do what
others want from us, not what we want. Some of
общепринятых мифов мы постараемся развенчать в этой
article.

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Good mother never gets tired

Caring for a child takes a lot of energy, so, like all people,
mom gets tired. Of course, she loves the baby, she waited for him for a long time, but
sometimes you just want to sit for 20 minutes in silence, look
tv or chat on the phone with a friend. These are ordinary
human needs that are not surprising or
shameful.

Good mom – perfect wife

Having spent several sleepless nights, in the evening the young mother is no longer in
able to accept the playful offer of a spouse. Falling asleep from fatigue,
she feels guilty whenever she refuses sex.
Или ей уже не до того, чтобы погладить мужу рубашку на завтра
or fry meatballs for dinner. Of course, reproaches from
wife: “You sit at home all day, do not do anything complicated. From
What could you be tired?

We also read: Fromчего ты устала? You’re home
are sitting! Or a memo to husbands who do not understand all the “charms” of maternity
holidays

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Words are useless here. Leave your husband alone with the child.
half a day – having stayed in your place, he will understand how much strength and patience
need to care for crumbs, and also keep the house in
cleanliness.
Deadlines at work and long meetings
exhausting, but all this is nothing compared to 20 minutes of hysteria
one year old child.

A good mother should not leave a child for long

�“Permanently” is a month or more for a longer time.
Such a long separation the baby will really be difficult
to transfer. However, a young mother can afford to go to the salon
beauty or sit in a cafe with girlfriends. For a couple of hours that
baby will hold with grandmother, dad, aunt, nothing terrible
happen, and work with him in English or lay down a pyramid
can be at another time. And it is worth listening to the opinion
psychologists who claim that it is useful for children from the diaper to learn
communicate with different people.

A good mother does everything herself and does not ask for help.

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How is the usual day of a young mother? – care for the baby,
cooking, washing and ironing, washing floors, trips to the supermarket for
groceries .. what else should a good mother do? – vacuuming
dusting, watering flowers … Almost Cinderella appears,
unless it is not necessary to separate the beans from the peas.

Часть работы по дому важно и нужно передать другим членам
family (and to do it without any doubt and embarrassment) – husband
older children.

Try the first time to utter the phrase “I do not have time, could not
you…”. At first it will be difficult for you to admit that you are not doing well and
asking for help, but it will soon become easier, and life will get better. If only
assistants managed!

A good mother is obliged to give children the best education.

Children now have very high loads. Kids go to
development centers, older children – in the gymnasium with mathematical
bias or with in-depth study of foreign languages, and after
studies attend sports clubs, music schools. All this
done to ensure that in the end the child entered the
prestigious university of the country, and if funds permit, it is better
him to continue to study abroad.

In fact, it is not always necessary to apply modern
techniques and activities for the child to develop normally.
Children are already curious, they are all interested, so you need
respond to their “why” – and they will experience this world,
strive for new knowledge.

Good mother never makes mistakes

With the birth of the baby, a woman develops a great intuition.
Only she cannot predict that while walking suddenly
it will rain, and the baby will get wet and catch a cold. Mom can’t
predict that the child will suddenly run, fall and smash himself
knees. Yes, and that the crumbs appear allergic to prescribed
pills doctor, she can not find out in advance.

No matter how much mom loves her child, she remains normal
a person who stumbles makes mistakes. Impossible to be
perfect and avoid all problems. But if you save
peace of mind, you can extract invaluable experience from your mistakes. Then
next time, in a similar situation, it will be possible to accept
the right decision.

Good mothers have perfect children.

There is such a stereotype that a good mother should bring up
obedient child who eats with appetite broccoli and cabbage,
no noise, not naughty, who sat down at 4 months, and at 9 months
started talking He is deceased, quiet, completely independent, without
preferences in food and clothing, not paying attention to themselves,
understands perfectly all the requests of parents. Still a child
good mothers do not manifest age crises that pass
all children.

It is unlikely that all over the world can find such a baby.
Normal, healthy baby – cheerful prankster
and a child), he is agile, he violently expresses his joy and his
discontent.
Forget about the characteristics of “ideal” children.
and love yours for being special.

A good mother is obliged to give children the best education.

Children now have very high loads. Kids go to
development centers, older children – in the gymnasium with mathematical
bias or with in-depth study of foreign languages, and after
studies attend sports clubs, music schools. All this
done to ensure that in the end the child entered the
prestigious university of the country, and if funds permit, it is better
him to continue to study abroad.

In fact, for the development of the child does not always need some
special classes and techniques. Baby will be happy to explore the world
just listening to the stories of his beloved mother, because he is interested in finding out
about everything that happens around.

We also read:

  • Want to be a super mom? 7 important skills will help you in
    this!
  • 10 ways to get rid of the complex “I am a bad mother”
  • 5 rules of ideal mothers with whom modern mothers are ready
    argue

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