For many three-year-old children, imaginary friends are
This is an integral part of growing up. However, parents often worry
that going to the world of fantasy can lead to separation from reality and
even problems in psychological development. Is it worth worrying
if a fictional appeared in your child’s life
Imaginary friends: who are they?
For three years, the child has the perfect image
друга для игр и общения. If he does not find such a friend in
reality, it is easily invented. So appears fictional
a friend who can be like a man (remember Carlson),
superhero, fairy tale character, cartoon. �”Appearance” habits
and the features of a fictional buddy will depend only on
An imaginary friend can be a constant companion of a child or
just coming partner for collaborative games. He can
exist only in a certain place: at the dacha at the grandmother or in
children’s room. No one knows when it will appear or
The reasons for the appearance of a fictional friend
Think for a minute, what is it like being a little kid?
You are constantly being told what to do and when, older brothers and sisters
(if any) take away toys and compete for attention
adults. Who in such a situation would not want a friend who never
Don’t take your typewriter, do what you say, and always
come to the rescue? Imaginary buddy can protect when
малыш напуган, станет «козлом отпущения», когда нужно
will blame someone, and will become an outlet when he wants
laugh or cry.
There are several reasons why a child
makes up friends and prefers to play with them.
If your baby is an only child, then
the likelihood of a character invented dramatically increases.
A child may become more dependent on their imaginary friends,
if he finds it difficult to find friends of his own age.
- Desire to be first
If the only friend is older and also likes to command, then
the child may very well come up with a friend to find comfort.
Often, children who are shoved around make imaginary friends, with
easy to talk to and who will always allow them to win or
take the lead in any game. Imaginary friend – part
fictional world where the child is the winner.
A child may also be stressed for various reasons – he
problems in kindergarten or school, it is difficult for him to make friends
it’s hard to live in the shadow of an older brother that others think is better
him. Often we misinterpret these difficulties, discard them.
side too busy to notice needs
baby In all such situations, the child comes up with an imaginary
friend and tells him about all the problems.
How to communicate with imaginary friends
Here are some tips on how to communicate and interact.
с выдуманными приятелями вашего baby
- Take the child’s fantasy
Do not constantly tell your kid that his friends are not
real ones. Be kind and friendly and respond to children
requests. After all, there is nothing difficult to pour
an extra cup of tea or open the door in front of the invisible
- Do not suppress his imagination
Воображение очень важно для baby Do not laugh at
non-existent friends. Incorrect parental response may
make the child go even deeper into the fictional world. Or he
just stop fantasizing.
- Do not initiate communication
Do not ask the child if his fictional friend is going
go with you for ice cream. Wait for your child to remember
him and then play together. At the same time, give the baby
opportunity to express your feelings. When he does not know with whom
share experiences, then uses an imaginary friend.
- Do not let the child shift
Do not allow a child to blame an imaginary friend that he
doing wrong himself. Children still have to carry
a responsibility за свои поступки, а задача родителей – напомнить о
the consequences. If a child accuses a fictional character
Disarray in the nursery, ask to clean the room with him.
If the baby refuses, the game is over, and let him clean
- Do not use a friend for “mercenary” purposes.
It’s not good to say to the child: “Dima wants you to eat
semolina porridge. The kid can understand that you are manipulating him.
- Encourage imagination
Spend more time with your baby. Let your baby
pretending, playing with dolls, putting on superhero costumes, reading
adventure books. And do it with him. Child
makes up a friend because he doesn’t get enough
attention from parents. Do not let an imaginary friend
replace real friends and your attention.
- Get to know the child better
Imaginary friends can give you an understanding of what
the child feels really. If his buddy Dima is afraid
the darkness then perhaps it is your baby is experiencing this fear.
Следите за другом и учитесь у нhim.
Having a fictional buddy is perfect
fine. Often it helps children cope with changes in life.
or the acquisition of social skills. Treat him as more
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