Childhood – a time of discovery, acquaintance with the unknown
the world and new people. But some kids like to sit more
behind a TV or computer than hanging out with friends. Going out on
walk, they take mommies away from the playgrounds and
sandboxes And in kindergarten these children do not play, but stand in
aside. Why a child is not friendly with anyone and how to help him
Disruption of socialization – when should you worry?
The lack of social contact with children is bound to alarm
any parent. However, individual moms and dads satisfied
single child because he is comfortable. All the time in sight, not
disappears with buddies from whom you can get harmful
habits. Busy with household chores, not hanging on the phone. Not
brings home noisy peers, after which the attack begins
migraine. It happens that the adults themselves unwittingly isolate the baby
due to constant anxiety and fears. Is it good? Of course,
Notжелание взаимодействовать со своим окружением – тревожный
bell. Not секрет, что от умения общаться со сверстниками зависит
further life: personal and professional success, achievement
career heights. По каким признакам можно
guess that your child is lonely and has serious problems with
- The child constantly complains that the guys in the kindergarten or school are not
they want to play with him, to be friends and even laugh at him. By the way
such confessions you will not hear from shy and withdrawn
- It is worth looking closely at the behavior on the nursery.
site. The kid can run, swing on a swing, build a castle from
sand, but it is not in contact with other children, or, conversely,
satisfied with numerous conflicts.
- The peculiar isolation is especially noticeable in a group or
classroom where children spend most of the day together. Take a closer look,
who your child communicates with, whether he asks for help. On
matinees note how active he is, whether they choose him
classmates in a couple for dancing and competitions.
- Little unsociable is not eager to talk about kindergartens
buddies, you literally have to pull this
information. He does not suffer from lack of friends, extremely reluctant
goes out, likes to stay home for the weekend and play
- The child with great reluctance goes to the garden or school, trying
find any loophole to not visit them. He returns from
школы/садика расстроенным и нервным. On любые расспросы
отвечает уклончиво: «Я не хочу говорить про садик».
- Birthday turns into a really sad holiday
without classmates. By the way они также не хотят его видеть на
Of course, there are children who are not particularly in need of the company –
for example, introverts or so-called geeks. They
self-sufficient and any interference with relationships
peers perceive with bayonets. And yet, if you
noted alarming signals of serious difficulties in
communicate, take all necessary measures for better socialization
Causes of childhood unsociation
- Children are often cruel and come up with offensive nicknames to those who
at least something different from them. Excessive fullness, stuttering, wearing
points, red hair – all this can be a favorite occasion for
ridicule and, accordingly, unwillingness to contact
- Popularity in a team may depend on the material
position and appearance. Teenagers often scoff at those
Who is unfashionable clothes or old model mobile phone.
- A child grows up in an inhospitable family in which he is constantly
They say that friends can deceive and betray. Adults also
find negative traits in each friend of a son or daughter:
studies poorly, behaves disgustingly, his dad works as usual
- Perhaps parents are busy at work or sent all the energy
on a newly born baby. If adults do not pay
sufficient attention to the child, he begins to consider himself unnecessary and
able to abandon interaction with peers.
- Shy children often become outcasts in kindergarten and school, so
how can not offer an interesting game and are afraid to join
contact. Forced isolation in early childhood due to
chronic illness, mom’s anxiety and suspiciousness lead to
shyness and fear of doing wrong.
- If the child behaves aggressively, considering that
conflicts need with fists and expletives, then with a big
probability of his waiting for isolation and lack of friends.
- Preschooler, educated on the principle of “idol of the family”, seeks
всегда быть первым, не желая считаться с интересами других children
Such a minion refuses to be friends with anyone who does not accept him.
- At risk are the so-called homemade children who
most of the time they communicate with their grandmother and do not go to
garden They испытывают трудности с адаптацией в начальных классах,
потому что не владеют навыками взаимодействия с группой children
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The kid is not friends with anyone: what to do
- If the reason for the isolation of the child is an old mobile
telephone and outdated wardrobe, you do not need to immediately get the most
expensive things and a smartphone. Find out his tastes and preferences, and then
Discuss the purchase of a fashionable gadget, but taking into account the family budget.
Children will become more confident if you reckon with their opinion.
- Write your child in the sports section or dance club,
if low social status is associated with being overweight. Thereby you
spare him from the numerous complexes about the appearance and
help you make new friends or make friends with classmates,
who also attend this circle.
- Ask your psychologist for support if
communication arose due to the behavior of a preschooler:
aggressiveness, excessive touchiness, spoiled,
- The baby needs to feel your support, so pay
he has maximum attention. Tell us about your own negative experiences
related to the fact that you had few friends in your childhood too. Special
Focus on the successful resolution of this situation.
- Have fun holidays at home for which
invite children from kindergarten, school. Perhaps outside the walls of the school
institutions guys will be able to make friends much faster. Get to know
with parents of other babies and get out on common family
activities: sit in a cafe, take a walk in the park.
- Challenge the kid to share candy or apples, so he
will gain the necessary authority among peers. Bring on
playground crayons and ball and arrange
joint entertainment, in the center of which will be your son. Also
contribute to the emergence of sympathy and friendship outdoor games:
hide and seek, salochki, hide and seek.
- Support every step of your quiet who decided
meet other children. Try not to give negative
evaluations to his friends and friends, so as not to destroy the initiative and
freedom of choice.
- Ask your caregiver or class teacher to include more often.
child in theatrical activities and role-playing games. Similar
classes will help him cope with shyness, reveal
artistic talent and build friendly relations with
- By the way опытный педагог подскажет, кто из группы лучше
total contact with the baby. Ask them to sit at one table.
for lunch and educational activities.
Trying to improve the relationship of your child with peers,
be extremely tactful: do not force him to be friends with someone, not
impose communication with other children. Remember careless
interference with personal living space can lead to
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