From birth to 6 months: to each friend
A newborn baby cannot understand from the very beginning how
the world is arranged. Every time a mother picks him up, the baby will know
her smell, touch, voice, and soon begins to understand what kind of
they should caress and feeding.
Thus, the child brings the mother within the limits of his little
of the world. He can distinguish it from the rest of the people by voice, smell,
At about 3 months, the baby clearly recognizes her face, in which
earlier he only caught familiar features. He is also lively
responds to mother’s approach, highlighting her from other people. But,
throughout the half year the child is friendly and smiling
everyone, and also allows everyone to keep themselves in their hands.
Parents are especially pleased to hear from their friends.
about how friendly their child is. But, на фоне общего
friendliness, the child gradually becomes more and more attached to
Half a year: fear of strangers
Approximately in half a year the behavior of the baby changes very much. AT
this time the child is very attached to his mother, he wants to see her and
only her, and begins to cry at the approach of strangers. Mama
becomes his safe haven. Father and grandparents can
feel unnecessary. Father can be uncomfortable awareness
that the child does not want to spend time with him. Older ones
relatives may be perplexed and worried that their
Angel no longer glows with joy, sitting on their lap.
The child does not like being away from mom, so he starts
cry whenever it is far away.
AT таком поведении нет ничего неправильного, оно не
means the baby is messed up. The necessary step in the development of the baby
– learn to recognize others.
AT течении предыдущих месяцев его мама разделяла горести и
the joy of the crumbs, cared for him during his illness, provided
support in mastering her body, understood it without words. This as well
also physical contact allowed mom to become the main person in
the life of the child with whom he likes to spend time more
Now the baby knows that besides him and mom there is a whole world, and so far
still afraid of him. Therefore, he appeals for support to the person
to which he is so attached. Someone besides mom baby
He does not want to see, but this is temporary.
This phase of “recognizing one’s own and others’s” can confuse and tire.
parents, but it is the norm and a prerequisite
social and emotional development. This is the first step that
makes the child on the path to learning how to distinguish between strangers and
those he truly loves. Also this ability will help
build strong relationships in adulthood.
After 9 months: building real relationships
Fear of others lasts from 2 to 8 weeks. AT течении этого
period, the child can withdraw even from his father. However between 8 and 9
for months, he will resume his relationship with his dad again, but in a more mature
sense. The degree of attachment of the child to the father depends on
how much is involved in the process of care for the baby. Baby can
recognize the father and love to play with him, but still it often takes
not as close a position as mom is, since the role of the breadwinner in
family involves less employment in daily worries. Father
becomes much more significant in the eyes of a child after
several months, or even years.
Gradually, the child establishes a closer relationship with
other family members or close friends of parents but
child’s affection is determined by the degree of involvement
an adult. The behavior of the baby in relation to adults outside the family is very
restrained. Now he clearly defines the difference between close
relatives, friends and strangers. Bloodbed
kinship does not matter to him. His relationship with a neighbor can
to be closer than with a grandmother who lives far away.
By the end of the first year, the child can crawl, and sometimes walk,
interested in the outside world, bravely passes a few meters without
mothers and fathers, but immediately returns under their protection, as soon as he sees
a place of potential danger, and if he is tired or
got hurt; friendly to familiar people even outside the family, but not without
parsing, how he was in 4 or 5 months.
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Older than a year
AT течении 2 и 3 года привязанность ребенка к родителям
it becomes clearer. AT его отношении к ним появляется новый аспект
bestow love in return. He wants to share, even if he has
just a piece of dried bun. Baby is worried if
it seems to him that the parent has been hurt or upset about something. AT таких
Whenever a child wants to give support, he can kiss
a sign of consolation. AT этом возрасте дети учатся любить.
As they get older, parents start to expect more restrained
behavior, and since the child loves his mom and dad, he does not want
disappoint their expectations and does what they say to him adults.
Gradually, they begin to expect him to cope with
disappointment, learn to go to the toilet and instead of rash
Action will first be all to speak.
Baby can принять ограничения, поскольку их налагают те,
whom he loves so much He wants to please his parents with something, wants to be
with them in harmony, wants to be like them. Parents are associated with
as a child, understand the inner struggle of the child, and
give him time. They are patient and ready to cheer at any moment.
their son or daughter in their desire to behave appropriately
in a way.
At first, the child does what he is told just because
he is reminded of this. After a while, many patterns
behaviors are adopted and become natural to the child that
forms the basis of behavior in a society outside the family.
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