In the 21st century, interest in the upbringing of children by freedom was renewed. By
development centers are being opened throughout Europe and in a number of Russian cities,
kindergartens and schools by this method.
Some believe that free parenting spoils children, others –
which expands the boundaries of the child. Taking this or that
side, it would be nice to get acquainted with both. Byрой результат
exceeds expectations, and sometimes at the end we get far from what
I would like to. Consider the strengths and weaknesses of the liberal
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- There are no patterns and stereotypes. Not
leveling, imposed behaviors: what and how should do.
The child does not inculcate the gregarious feeling “To be like everyone else!” On him not
affect communities, individuals with false beliefs and
subjective assessments. A small person is formed personal
position, world view and personal opinion.
- Trusting relationship. In a family where there is no
coercion, and weaknesses and shortcomings perceive as features
character, friendly atmosphere, warm relations and complete
the trust. There are no secrets, misunderstandings and offenses.
- Freedom of choice. The child himself determines the mode
day and leisure, how much to eat and when to go to bed than
to engage and which circles to attend. Not давления. Baby is free in
their preferences and chooses their own path of development. So
it is easier for people in the future to find their purpose in life, because they are
childhood experience independent decisions. Know their
addiction and what they want.
- Openness and interpersonal skills. Children,
brought up by freedom, open to the world. In any situation, feel
surely. Have an extensive vocabulary and feel free to express
own point of view. Actively participate in speeches,
disputes, competitions. Quite ambitious and initiative that
does not go unnoticed. It will be easier for them to win recognition.
society and make your way up the career ladder.
- The development of creativity. This is an opportunity
self-actualize. The lifting of borders and prohibitions, the elimination of the imposed
choice allows you to fully reveal the abilities. Child
independently determines his hobbies and interests, openly
shows creativity. The makings of the mortgaged
- A responsibility. Freedom of choice obliges children
from an early age be responsible for misbehavior
and errors. Child учится взвешивать решения, думать наперед, видеть
consequences, solve problems on your own. This is an invaluable experience. AT
future, he will not shift the blame on the shoulders of another, will not fall
depressed at the slightest failure and will find a way out of any
- Individual approach and respect. Every kid
perceived as a unique personality. ATзрослый прислушивается к
the views and desires of a little man. Methods of education and
effects on the child are selected individually, taking into account
features of character.
- Not насилия. The child is not forced to do anything.
ATоспитание свободой предполагает отсутствие каких-либо наказаний,
instructions, teachings. The baby has a positive attitude
to the people around him. Seeing cruelty and violence, he himself
will be to show it.
- Healthy mind. Byложительный
the psychological climate and friendly atmosphere create a favorable
the ground for the normal development of the child’s psyche. Child огражден от
bans, screams, punishments. He is not disturbed by aggression, nervousness,
fear. Baby grows emotionally balanced.
- ATысокая самооценка. Participation in family matters
the ability to express a personal opinion enhances your sense of
dignity, significance. Developing a healthy self-esteem. Such
children are self-confident, purposeful, focused on success. Have them
there are no internal prohibitions and barriers. It is this factor
allows you to move forward and achieve success.
ATоспитание свободой несет в себе существенные преимущества.
However, like any system, it has errors. With what
problems can face the child and what difficulties await
parents who have decided to raise the child of the liberal style?
- Pampering Byскольку многое позволено и
there are practically no prohibitions; babies often grow spoiled.
If a parent and child could find a compromise within the family,
then outside the house there are problems. AT детском саду, в школе, где
established discipline and certain norms of behavior, child
can meet harsh criticism and intolerance for his pranks.
- Not требовательности к себе. In fact,
children love the rules and requirements. For them, this kind of beacons
which they are oriented in the world of adults and serious people.
Often babies raised by freedom do not know how to be
demanding of themselves and suffer from it. Confronted with
prohibitions and severity, they do not understand what they want from them.
Reality can cause aggression in them.
- Difficulties in communication. Free person
gets used to the fact that close people perceive him as he is
there is. For a child, this is natural. is he convinced the whole world should
accept and love him. ATыслушивать детские доводы и рассуждения,
to reckon with opinion. Expecting a special relationship, a child
faces resistance, has difficulty communicating.
- Heightened self-esteem. Baby on a par with
adults – it can play a cruel joke. Confidence without difficulty
grows into self-confidence. Overestimating your own
opportunities often leads to collapse in endeavors. The result is
lack of recognition by society, misunderstanding, frustration,
- Not for everyone. There are children that rules
just needed. is heи плохо чувствуют границы «хорошо-плохо».
Disorientation leads to pampering, whims, childish tantrums,
misunderstanding. Byскольку нет одинаковых детей, насколько оправдано
use of the “free” method of education for all without
- Parents – not authority. It’s hard for parents
maintain credibility in the eyes of the baby. Equal rights of an adult and
child erase the boundaries of what is permitted. ATедь дети и балуются, и
they fight, it means you can behave like this with an adult: disobey,
ape, hit. However, to scold and punish a child is not
соответствуют методу свободного education. Reach an agreement
in the good does not always work. How to be?
- Expensive. Private gardens and schools operating
This technique is more expensive than usual. Hire a tutor at home
also expensive. You can educate a preschooler yourself, but
then you have to sacrifice the income of one of the parents.
- Difficult to implement. Absence or distance
specialized educational institutions impede the implementation of this
method. For example, a preschooler can raise parents. But further
he has to go to school. State educational institutions
Sample work by another method. Specialized schools
not enough. Independently fully realize free
upbringing will be possible only for those parents in whose district they function
�”Free style school”.
It is necessary to understand that the uniform for all kids method of education
it can not be. Byмимо того, что дети разного пола, они еще
differ in temperament type: melancholic, phlegmatic,
sanguine, choleric, plus their various combinations. Is impossible
create a universal way to solve the problem. How can you think of
a book that everyone would read, a film that would satisfy
interests of the whole society.
Shy and shy need more freedom, nimble
choleric people need rules, naughty guys need borders.
Byскольку дети разные, то и метод, и приемы воспитания будут
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