Even the most caring and skillful mom can one day
sad to note: “I have a feeling that I am a bad mother.” Often
such thoughts arise in women with the so-called “syndrome
honors “, when the slightest mistake or failure in any area of life
becomes a personal reproach. In fact, if you are capable
analyze your actions, worry about the results, see
your own shortcomings, it means that you are a beautiful mother,
which strive to make your child happy.
But if thoughts of one’s own imperfection have already settled in
head, you should get rid of them as soon as possible, because the oppressed
condition can lead to depression and really affect
the life of your whole family.
Как избавиться от комплекса «Я – плохая Mama”?
- Understand that there is no ideal. No one is born
with the perfect ability to change diapers and guess diseases
child on the first sneeze. Your life consists not only of interests
baby Good family relationships, attractiveness and mood
Moms are important and baby. And if you have something wrong, you can
entrust it to professionals. For example, to drive a child to developing
classes, or most attend the required courses.
- Believe that your child is unique. Not worth it
at night to study the sites of pediatrics and compare their skills
a child with those that are supposedly needed at a particular age. Your
the baby will sit, walk, speak and take hundreds more steps of his
development when it is ready for it. You can calm
help him with this.
- Try to minimize communication with people
endlessly reproaching you for the wrong approach to
education. This is especially true of the older generation and
other new mommies. Grandmothers, great-grandmothers, aunts can
long talk about the dangers of diapers, blends and modern
development techniques. And on the playground you can hear the phrases
like: “How can you let your baby sleep with their parents?”,
�”How can I carry a child in a sling?”, “And now my spoon itself
holds “and so on. Protect yourself from such comments, or
try to ignore them, because only you are responsible for your
child and you can make decisions about him.
- Make a list of cases that, in your opinion,
должны избавить от комплекса «плохая Mama”. If you consider
that supermat sculpts crafts, builds houses from sand, tirelessly
reads fairy tales, etc., do it periodically to raise
- Feel free to ask for help and don’t give up.
нее. You do not leave the child to the mercy of fate, if
send him a little stay with his grandmother. On the contrary, change
conditions are needed not only for you, but also for the child. With pleasure
take help in business, relieving yourself, because your life is now
largely composed of small things.
- Rest and take time for yourself.
The monotony and monotony of daily affairs from day to day
anyone can enter into a depressed state. So get busy
yourself, what you love. Learn languages, read, play sports,
learn to do something completely new, open yourself up to the
unexpected areas. And at this time let the child take care of dad,
grandmother or other relatives.
- Do not be afraid to take a sedative. Do not count
yourself insane, just talk to your doctor about
sedative medications, if necessary.
- Do not judge others. It will help to yourself
treat less critical.
- Systematize your schedule. Once
get rid of the thought that you can’t do anything, you internally
calm down. Make a distinction between the really important ones.
and minor matters, think over the menu for the week and
shopping lists. This will free not only time, but also the head
disturbing thoughts (6 tips for moms who lack
- Будьте позитивней. Laugh at the failures
smile problems, and they may cease to be so
You must have a high point. And if today
you miss the pyramid, or look forward to when the baby
finally speak, then soon you can become your child
best friend and ally, inspiring your inner strength and
dedication. Everything has its time, the main thing is to believe in yourself and
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